As in Dance, So in Love

Good dancers make good lovers, says survey

Men who know how to move on the dance floor know all the right moves in the bedroom, according to a new report.

Interesting article. I wonder what the real correlation is. The article touches on shyness on the dance floor matching shyness in bed, but not why, in any depth. (also, over-the-top flashy dancers...)

If you're so conscious of your body on the dance floor, I say, it implies you will be over-aware of your body in bed. In both cases, this means an inability to relax, and enjoy the moment, the motion, and -- let's be blunt -- the rhythm. 'Cause finding the rhythm is important, baybee.

I propose two major contributors to such self-consciousness:

1. insecurity -- about your looks, about your social standing (i.e., not wanting to look like a dork)
2. hyperconsciousness -- lacking the facility of being in the moment from a Zen perspective, unable to lose yourself in the task at hand. Overthinking the situation.

There's probably more, I've suffered from both, although once I'm dancing (vertically or...horizontally, ahem), it doesn't seem to be a problem.

Oh, but asking them to dance, and you can read that either way, is still mortifying. What if they say no? What if they hate my moves? What if? Well, if you don't ask, you'll never know, will you? So, how badly do you want this dance?

Anyways, a thought-provoking article.

Hats off to Scalzi, for the link.